Description
In this moving, passionate reflection upon his own life and ministry, Ralph Basui Watkins examines his relative privilege experienced while growing up in a culture that valued strong masculinity, as exemplified by boys like him. But more than that, he compares his experiences to those of the LGBTQ+ community, deeply considering what it may have been like to grow up without a support system or role models in the church. He shares how he journeyed from a tradition that denied community and belongingness to LGBTQ+ people to a faith-driven acceptance and love for all. He encourages the church to better support all members of the Kingdom of God by focusing on the liberative and loving messages of the Gospel.
Reviews
“We learn best through stories, and Ralph Watkins’ story gently invites us all—pastors, seminary professors, Bible students, and curious laypeople seeking deeper faith and a fuller understanding of justice—into a more loving way of seeing our LGBTQ+ siblings. His message is both tender and prophetic, calling us toward a faith shaped not by fear, but by compassion. Inclusive Love invites those of us in the Black Church community and beyond to live more fully into the truth that the heart of God is revealed through grace and mercy for all—without exception. Through honest, thoughtful conversation, the book offers theological and biblical pathways forward as we rethink inclusion and reimagine God’s kindom. This is a courageous work, written for reflection, growth, and change. In discovering new possibilities and deepening our understanding of the gospel, we find the very essence of faithful living.”—Nancy Lynne Westfield, Ph.D., Director, Wabash Center for Teaching and Learning in Theology and Religion
“Ralph Basui Watkins is a religious sociologist who is a captivating storyteller. His memoir will consume you as you journey with him in the making and unmaking of himself as a hyper-masculine homophobe, as revealed through the words he uses. I could "see" the moments about which he writes. What Dr. Watkins experiences is not reform, but repentance, complete with the work of repair as a cisgender heterosexual man whose pastoral heart shines through for his Queer* kin. The book is a lesson in ongoing Christian conversion and change, a guide to a conversation that I hope all who love the Black Church and the church at large will read, study, and learn from, whether men's groups, youth groups, the church's bible study groups, book clubs, and more. I would also recommend that seminaries teaching practical theology use it, and the books of his conversation partners. What a gift Dr. Watkins has given us with his unflinching confessional book.”—Rev. Valerie Bridgeman, Ph.D., Dean and Vice President of Academic Affairs, Associate Professor of Homiletics & Hebrew Bible, Methodist Theological School in Ohio
Author Bio

Rev. Dr. Ralph Watkins, PhD, DMin, MA, is the Pastor of Wheat Street Baptist Church and the Associate Professor of Evangelism and Church Growth at Columbia Theological Seminary in Decatur, GA. He was the assistant dean of the African American Church Studies Program and associate professor of society, religion, and Africana studies in the School of Theology at Fuller Theological Seminary.
With over 20 years of pastoral, teaching, and administrative experience, Dr. Ralph Watkins is an active teaching scholar with over 250 publications and conference presentations to his credit, including five books.
In recent years, Watkins has received a Governor's Teaching Fellowship, Lilly Teaching Fellowship, Fulbright Hayes Fellowship for a study in Ghana, a Wabash Teaching Fellowship, and various awards and study grants to study in Kenya, Tanzania, Egypt, Mexico, and Ethiopia. He is ordained in the African Methodist Episcopal (AME) denomination and served as the executive pastor of First African Methodist Episcopal Church in Los Angeles under Rev. Dr. John J. Hunter. Prior to FAME he served as Director of Ecclesia / Executive Pastor at The City of Refuge under Bishop Noel Jones in Gardena California.